October 2, 2015
musings and ponderings…
had tea with girlfriends today.
and totally needed it.
you know it’s a good time when all of
you tear up at least once. and there’s
belly laughing as well. what a combination.
i felt like i learned from them today.
and i think that’s one of the best feelings
they taught me,
helped me understand some things,
and brought more compassion into my heart.
and i’m not sure,
but i would guess they woulda said the same
thing about our time together.
which, somehow i think is how real sharing works.
here’s to girlfriends.
my women friends
there’s nothing like my women friends.
launching straight into matters of the heart and soul
the moment we’re alone.
we use tears, laughter and wisdom to cross
entire universes in moments.
always arriving back to where we started –
but never arriving home completely the same.
October 1, 2015
i just watched someone shine in their struggle.
and here’s one of the big glories of sharing when
we shine – we inspire each other and remind each
other that we can all do the same.
i think i usually say struggle can bring growth.
or there’s gold in the struggle.
stuff like that.
but this time, i saw a different angle.
i saw how struggle made the space for this person
to see their strength.
and that is no little thing.
i see struggle constantly thru my business.
i see triumphs daily.
i remind others and myself over and over to look
for the gold in the dark.
but today, i’m thinking i want to add –
look for yourself as well.
cause you just may turn around to find yourself
flexing muscles you didn’t realize you had
with a cape whipping around your shoulders in
the most glorious way.
i think we can miss that too.
because if that’s happening, it’s probably not
the most comfortable situation. we probably don’t
feel all that great about stuff. and we may not
stop to take a look at who we are.
so now i want to remember –
yes, there is gold in the darkness –
and there are times that gold is going to be
my own strength. and that i need to remember
to turn around and look at it.
and that struggle isn’t all bad.
not by a long shot……
September 30, 2015
i took a survey yesterday.
it asked me if i could have anything
i wanted happen in my business life,
what would it be.
that was easy.
it wasn’t get on oprah.
it wasn’t make millions.
it wasn’t write a best seller.
it wasn’t any of those things that
might come to mind.
it was this –
know that what i was doing was exactly
what i was supposed to be doing, and that there
was no need to worry about anything.
it then asked me what got in my way
to achieving that goal.
that answer was also easy –
this morning i realized those answers
didn’t just apply to my business life.
they applied to all of my life.
lately i’ve had to whisper to myself
more than once to ‘trust the process.’
didn’t really help.
but it was good i knew the phrase and
knew to aim there.
that’s a start.
but what if i could put all that doubt down
and believe in the process and know i was
doing what i was supposed to be doing?
in all places in my life.
of course, that’s with the assumption that
i’m really trying to do my best in all those
which i am.
so………i don’t know……..
seemed like good food for thought today.
you doin’ your best?
then believe in that.
and trust the process.
just keep on doin’ that.
think i may put that in a posty note on my desk.
September 29, 2015
for various reasons,
i lay awake last nite coming up with
a plan for today.
i found myself talking out loud to myself
about it and figuring it all out.
i was intent on getting it right.
only to find that from the moment i awoke,
nothing would go as planned.
in fact, everything would be wonky today.
and at each wonky turn,
i asked myself ‘okay, how does THIS affect
somehow, i kept my eye on the end goal of the
day. and i’d keep looking at that end goal
and aiming towards it, no matter what twist
the day was taking.
now, granted, it’s not over yet,
BUT i have been doin’ this steadily now and
believe i’ll keep refocusing as needed.
in watching this, i’m seeing something i hadn’t
thought of before –
the plan doesn’t really make much of a difference.
you can’t control the wonkiness of life.
but you can keep the goals in mind.
and adjust as needed.
seems basic, i know.
but seems important.
seems like something to carry into all kindsa
maybe we can pretty much count on things NOT
going as planned, and work on not getting hung
up there. and just keep asking ourselves what
was the darn goal? and just keep adjusting course
to get there…….
September 28, 2015
i was flipping thru this yellow pad
of paper of mine this weekend and stopped
when i read this part –
“when i stopped listening,
i kept hearing.
i didn’t lose sound.
i lost understanding.
i lost you.
all i gained was noise.”
my gosh, that feels like the world to me sometimes.
we haven’t lost sound……
but we’ve lost understanding.
and you know what else it can refer to?
the world thing made me sad.
but the part about turning this towards my own self,
and losing me made me excited.
because i can stop and listen again.
and i think i’d like that.
September 25, 2015
it’s like a mammoth rock.
squeezed into the space in my chest.
behind my ribs somewhere.
laying on my insides.
it’s hard to move.
hard to breathe.
hard to smile.
it stays there.
i want to fake it.
pretend it doesn’t exist.
yet it controls the muscles
in my face.
the strength of my arms.
the ability to hold my head up
for long periods of time.
wanting it to be gone.
that it’s here to speak to me.
that it’s here because it values me
and wants to remind me to do the same.
and find that i can’t wash it away.
i sit down to listen.
September 24, 2015
i think the older my sons get,
the smaltzier i get.
maybe i realize more and more how fast
time flies. how quickly life passes.
and how important it is to grab it and
it’s my middle son’s birthday today.
and i keep goin’ back to the memories
of the past. i’ve been flooded with them.
i just realized – that’s nice and good.
but enough already.
i gotta go make some new ones to add
and i’m off to do just that……
September 23, 2015
under the bus
and over the rocks
breathing in the grit.
heaving out the hurt.
tire tracks on her arms
she lay there.
everything felt broken.
including her heart.
but she could hear it beating
as she lay there
on the earth.
she watched the bus drive away.
she knew it’d be back.
and she knew
she’d be thrown under again.
but maybe that time
maybe it’d just be her name
that got tossed around.
maybe the rest of her
would keep standing,
if there was standing involved next time
she needed to get back up this time.
rubbing her ankles
supporting her back
spit out the dirt.
got some caught in her teeth.
and headed out
to get some
September 21, 2015
a friend of mine quoted a bone sigh over
on facebook to kinda mention her hero in
her life. she asked everyone who their heroes
were and she reminded us not to forget
ourselves on that list.
i smiled when i saw the quote.
kept smiling when i read her acknowledge
her hero…..and then kinda stopped in
my tracks over the not forgetting to
remember that we’re our own heroes.
i don’t think i have ever considered myself
my own hero.
i’ve considered myself my own best friend.
but there’s a little bit of a different twist
with the word ‘hero,’ ya know?
i thought of that time in my life –
the really dark, hard time when bone sigh arts was
born. i pulled myself outta a life that was
i have felt guilt, exhaustion, anger, frustration,
fear, sadness, sorrow, agony, joy, happiness, pride,
shame……..all kindsa things…….
but today as i sat there i realized that when i did
that…..when i showed that inner strength i didn’t
even know i had……i was my own hero.
i didn’t even know that til today.
and i just decided something.
that part of me took one heck of a beating thru
that time. that part of me still gets beat up here
and there. and you know what? it’s time that part of
me got honored.
i’m gonna give my hero a little party.
and celebrate her.
cause she saved my life.
and i think it’s time.
thank you, evelyn.
you really opened a door for me!
September 18, 2015
there’s a song i was listening to the other day
that has a place in it where the singer sings –
‘is anyone listening?’ in a way that really grabs
i kept hearing her voice in my head this morning
as i read an exchange on facebook. people were
just spouting their thoughts out to convince the
other person that they ought to think the same.
but there was no point as the other person was
doin’ exactly the same. sure that if they said
it smart enough the other would understand.
i just shook my head.
i thought of some of the stuff that’s gone on
for me this week. and how little i felt heard
in different spots.
seriously, is ANYONE listening?
i put a big “L” on my hand this morning.
i’m headin’ out to spend the day with my family.
i know that family is one place where it’s real
easy to stop listening. we assume so much.
i’m hoping to be reminded all day by that L
and to pay attention. i’ve got nothing i really
need to say today – but ohhhhhhh i have so much
i want to soak in!