if you’re happy and you know it…

just heard from someone i love this morning
that she’s really really happy!

how wonderful is that?!
but!
she doesn’t want to show it too much
as she’s worried about others being jealous
or others just not handling it in good ways.

yeah.
sigh.

i have also had times when i have been so happy,
but have kinda kept it toned down because
i didn’t want to make anyone feel bad.

yeah.
sigh.

but i’ve done some thinking on that.
and i don’t think that’s how i ever want to be again.

because it’s not authentic.
it’s not real.
and it’s totally not giving people the space to both celebrate with me,
and also to be totally authentic themselves.

i thought it was thoughtful and considerate.
but i don’t think so anymore.

of course there are tactful ways to present it,
and there are moments that it’s just not okay to holler your joy out in someone’s face.

but that’s the same with sadness or any emotion.
and those times aren’t that often.
and there is realness in sitting with someone who’s in a rough place
and just being there totally present with them,
and not needing anything more but that.

but that’s sorta a horse of different color.

the general living out loud of being happy when you’re happy
is real and honest and authentic.
and i think that’s a good thing, not only for us,
but for everyone around us.
in so many different ways.

and if indeed, someone is jealous and doesn’t step out of their
smallness to be happy for us, that’s okay. that’s their deal.
not ours.

and maybe there really isn’t that much room for those people anymore.
and that’s okay too.
doesn’t have to be a snotty or not nice thing.
it can be a gentle ‘okay. let’s go in our own different directions’ thing.
which is also authentic and respecting the paths we all take.

it brings to mind that whole marianne williamson quote, doesn’t it?!
i remember how incredibly taken i was with this when i first read it
a million life times ago.

still, today, it feels so important.
i’ll post it here for all of us today.
and just kinda remind you –
if you’re happy and you know it –
clap your hands!

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”